Due to the recent incident all over the news regarding a death brought about by fraternity hazing, a co-worker, who is single and without a child, asked me what would be more hurtful – that you be the parent of the (dead) victim or the accused?
I asked my Hubby about this and without batting an eyelash, he said that it is more painful for the parents of the victim because they have lost a child. Maybe to a father's point of view, yes.
Honestly, if I didn’t have a child, I would think likewise. But as a Mom, victim or accused, dead or alive but imprisoned, I couldn’t say that the other can be more painful because to a mom, I cannot bear seeing my child suffer in any degree.
Okay, andun na ko... if your child is proven guilty and then your child suffers and eventually loses his future, maybe it is also because of his own doing... But then, he is still MY child. Don’t take me wrong ha, I will NEVER think of tolerating his wrongdoings. I won’t. But his being guilty of whatever charges will not stop me from being his mother, di ba?
The fact that he did something terrible would already pain me. Seeing him pay for it, although he must, would just pain me more.
So until now, I cannot decide. Simply because no parent, or more specifically, no mother would want to see their children in whichever situation. I can only pray for my child to always be a good person and be kept away from the evilness of the world.
What say you?